It
came as a shock to most people when actress, Amanda Ebeye, had a baby in
Canada, more so when nobody knew about her being in a relationship let alone,
getting married.
Expectedly,
she got a lot of bashing offline and online especially, from her fans who felt
it was ‘bad’ for her to have a child outside wedlock. But in an exclusive chat
with Saturday Beats,
the actress gave reasons why she did not get married to the father of her
child.
“I
did not marry the father of my child because he is not my husband and he is not
meant to be. I could have been in the most useless relationship right now if I
wanted but I told myself instead of giving my son this shameless pretender and
liar of a man as a father, I would take care of him and he will be fine. I tell
you that since I took that stance, I’ve not looked back for one day and God
keeps giving me the strength to move on. If it is God’s, one day a good man
will come and you’ll be invited to my wedding but for now, I’m single and all
that matters to me is my son,” said the actress.
She
was also quick to respond to the backlash she received after welcoming her baby
to the world. While reacting to the various rumours and online tongue lash she
received from Nigerians, the actress simply said that everyone is entitled to
their opinion.
“I
didn’t feel bad because we are all entitled to our opinions. Most people don’t
know what other people go through but they are fast to bury them. We all hide
behind our beautiful make-up and clothes that people forget that we all cry
sometimes. And the most painful part is that it is mostly women that do these
criticisms. Some are even going through worse situations but they come on
social media, wearing make-up and fine clothes and start commenting but when
they go home, their husbands would slap them for not cooking their food early, and
they receive it with smiles, walk away and say I’m fighting for my man.
Hypocrites!”
The
Clinic Matters
actress said that she cannot describe the joy that comes with motherhood and
contrary to popular belief; it is not a tough job being a single mother.
“Being
a mother is the best feeling in the world and it’s unexplainable. If you’re a
woman and you haven’t experienced it, you have to look forward to it and pray
it happens. I remember when I used to hear our mothers say a woman is not
complete without childbirth. I never believed them but sincerely now I do. I’m
glad I’ve had this chance to go through this experience and feeling. I would
not trade it for a billion dollars.
“It’s
been amazing. People think it’s very hard and difficult but I’ll tell you this
today and I’ll use this medium to speak to women going through bad
relationships. You can do it alone, do not let some man think he’s your Alpha
and Omega. That’s for the Lord. Honour your husband. Be diligent as a wife. Do
your job as a wife. Be his mother, cook his meals and cater to your family.
Have a job so you can support your family too. He pays the fees, you can choose
to pay for a vacation for the family to France. Do all you can as a good wife
and a virtuous woman but if you do all that and he disrespects you, cheats on
you and gives you bull please know you stand right with God and don’t be scared
to walk out the door with your kids,” she said.
SOURCE: PUNCH
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