On-Air Personality, Toke Makinwa has revealed in her book
that she bleached because of her estranged husband, Maje Ayida. In the book, ‘On
Becoming,’ Toke, revealed all that led to her divorce.
The pretty power-dresser had filed a divorce suit
against her estranged husband in a Lagos court and she had instituted Maje and
his Baby Mama, Anita Solomon, as respondents.
From the petitions
filed, Toke said it all—Maje was unfaithful, the marriage ceased to exist on
November 8, 2015 when she could not stand the repeated adulterous acts of the
man. He had a baby outside their
marriage.
Here
are some excerpts from the book (culled from Bella Naija .)
The
Discovery
I
got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. “Maje, you
can’t keep lying. What is going on?
He
walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing, like
he is having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the
living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’.
I
fall to the ground. My head….
‘What’s
she having?’
‘A
boy,’ he says.
‘How
long have you known?’
‘I’ve always known….
It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says.
The
Wedding
“Finally,
I thought. He chose me! He has stepped up and he’s finally ready to make us a
priority.
It
was my wedding day.
I
was happy, yet I was waiting for something to happen. Maje had disappointed me
three times before. We would pick a date to go to the wedding registry and he
would call it off…. We had discussed eloping, but he’d never committed to any
plan.
It
wasn’t until we shared our first dance to John Legend’s ‘All of Me’ that I
finally believed that it had happened.
We got back together
(after a quarrel because Maje took ‘an ex’ to a party he bluntly told Toke he
wasn’t taking her to and he and the ex were ‘touching freely and kissing’)…
Maje invited me to Abuja…. As I was putting away my things I saw all kinds of
feminine items – earrings on the dresser, sanitary pads in the drawer….”
The
Other Woman
“Who
was that girl?” I asked
“That’s
that girl”
“Which
girl?”
“The
girl I told you about. Her friends are always calling me to say she really
likes me and has a crush on me. Her name is Anita.”
“So
that’s the Anita girl they say you are dating.”
“I’m
not dating her. How can I date someone that is always saying ‘can I come and
see you? I’ll bring my friend that you think is cute’?”
I accepted Maje’s
explanation and concluded that Anita was not important. So I’ll be with Maje
and she’d call and I’d tell him, “The girl that has a crush on you is calling.”
And it would be nothing.
The
Sex Tape and Bleaching
“At
some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex.
This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I
thought, and so I obliged. But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want
the tape to get into the wrong hands…. I dragged the file back to his desktop,
and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was
not me…. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita.
Watching that video,
all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing
back. I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my
twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to
live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and
half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”
To be continued
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