For Those Seeking Handsome, Rich Dudes, Tonto Dike Advises, "They Don't Make You Happy"

Tonto and Husband

Known to be very boisterous, a gregarious actress and controversial, there is no denying the fact that Nollywood actress, Tonto Dikeh has turned a new leaf since she became a Mrs.

Obviously, Tonto must have read Toke Makinwa’s tell-all book, and the mother of one, who has  been married to Oladunni Churchill for over 15 months, shared her thoughts on Instagram:

"HE FORGOT ABOUT YOU.REMEMBER THAT!!! 

I'm not sure why but we all do it.
Many beings waste years of their lives, chasing after people they can't have, or lifestyles that aren't sustainable, for reasons we don't know.
You can't have a person, either they will f*ck with you, or they won't.
Nobody is out of your league; they just don't want you in their life.
We are all human so we all make mistakes, but a mistake made twice is a choice.
Try not to seek the best looking, or those with the most money, for these are superficial ideas and money doesn't make you happy.

You make you happy, so if you are in a situation with a person and you have the freedom to choose, but you are unhappy, this is your fault not theirs.
Stop wasting your time.
Leave the situation.
You should be looking for someone who shares sympathetic vibrations. Someone who is on your wavelength, someone who can be on the same frequency as you. Everything is a vibration, positive or negative. All elements are made up of atoms. And these are made up of a nucleus, protons (positive), neutrons (no charge) and electrons (negative). Opposites attract but if someone is in a negative space, you being in a positive space isn't necessarily going to help them and vice versa. You choose your own happiness, as you can choose the people you are around. (Obviously free from war, famine, poverty, drought, oppressive systems of government/religious opinions, disease etc) If you aren't happy within yourself, you can't be truly happy around others.

Health is not just physical.
I think this is why people who know me love me, because I am happy and I love people.
Don't chase waterfalls, on the surface they appear beautiful, but they are usually hiding rocks that will kill you. #chkb #POKOBARS.” (sic)

Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde Says “Your Husband Must Be Born-Again To Have Your Marriage Intact”

Despite being an actress, Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde’s marriage rates as one of those to have lasted 20 years and still remains intact.

As a marriage ‘veteran’ she chose to advise other celebrities on what makes marriage work. At the just concluded Africa International Film Festival which held in Lagos, the fair-complexioned mother of four opined on religion as the bedrock for a lasting union. 

Omotola, who attends Oyedepo-led Winners Chapel in Ota, told the audience, “If you’re a Christian and you marry someone who is not born again then you are on your own.” 

Meanwhile, in an interview Kemi Ashefon conducted with the couple two years ago, the actress has proffered tithes as an ingredient for lasting marriage.

She said, “Pay your tithe individually. It’s a covering. This is our secret. When you don’t pay your tithe, you have not committed yourself and your home will not be put together. It is your foundation. But when you pay your tithe, God helps you take away every devourer. When that is taken care of and you are God-fearing, as darts are coming from every angle, you are already fortified.”

At the film festival, pretty Omotola explained that, “Your partner needs to be stronger than you. They are the ones getting the aftermath of your own action.

"Choose a partner who understands entertainment. Don’t choose your fan. Personally, I don’t believe in love at first sight.

"Pick someone who sees your heart, your soul, someone who sees the real you and not afraid to tell you about your flaws.

"Discipline is key. Everyone wants freedom but too much freedom is bad. Be disciplined. It’s better to be an enemy to a work partner than to your family. Learn to say No!

Advising against sex for roles, Omotola who is married to Captain Matthew Ekeinde said, “Sometimes you will get a role for giving yourself out but you won’t be able to retain it.

"If you become famous it will later haunt you. But don’t run away from your sexuality, don’t shy away from who you are, enjoy who you are, come on there but come out with substance.

Toke Makinwa Makes More Money As Dbanj Buys Book For N1m

While her estranged husband, Maje Ayida gets all the punches for ‘treating’ his wife, badly as portrayed in OAP Toke Makinwa’s book, “On Becoming”, it is Naira rain for the popular Vlogger and TV host.

At the launch of her tell-all book on November 27, in Lagos, music sensation Dbanj, made a pledge of N1m and guess what? He redeemed it to Toke despite the N100million debt alleged to be hanging on him.

On Tuesday Nov 29, Toke squealed on Instagram:

“There are friends, and there are FRIENDS!!!!! Dapooooooooo.........We go way back and it's always been support, kindness and more support.
Thank you for your huge contribution to my book #OnBecoming.
You really didn't have to and I know you'll be mad at me for making this public but we'll talk it over.

D'banj made a pledge of 1 million Naira, and he redeemed it. Thank you bro. Oya blast me now but before you do, let me shout about your own book. You must release it!” (sic)

Who says Toke isn’t a smart girl?

“My Husband Compares Me With Goats,” Woman Seeking Divorce Alleges

A woman, Aderonke Ojediran, on Monday, approached a Grade C Customary Court, Agodi, Ibadan in Oyo State, to seek dissolution of her five-year-old marriage to Oyeleke Ojediran, for allegedly comparing her with goats. 

According to her, sometime in 2013, her husband brought goats inside their sitting room and compared her with the animals, saying she was the same as the goats. 

“He used to beat me and had been careless about my welfare and that of the innocent child we have. In fact, I am tired of the marriage and I don’t want to die young.I packed out of my husband’s residence in 2013 when I could no longer cope with his bad characters.”

Ojediran also complained that she was seeking divorce because Oyeleke had refused to pay her bride pride and had been threatening her life. 

“To make the matter worse, he refused to pay my bride price, instead, he turned me to a punching bag and treated me as he wishes,” she added. 

The woman further prayed the court to allow her to take custody of the child for proper care. The defendant, who admitted that he brought two goats inside the sitting room, explained that he compared his wife with the goats because of her bad attitude. He also agreed with the divorce suit, alleging also that the plaintiff’s troublesome way of life was responsible for his hypertensive health condition.

The President of the court, Chief Mukaila Balogun,
then declared the marriage dissolved. 

He said “having listened to the evidence of both parties, it is clear that there is no more love between the couple and they should go their separate ways as they stand unmarried. “Custody of the only child of the union is to remain with the plaintiff and the sum of N3,000 is awarded against the defendant on monthly basis, being money for the upkeep of the child.”

Source: Vanguard