LOVE MATTERS

Dear Kemi,

Help,girls chase my husband

  My marriage is not what I expected it to be because my husband’s ex lovers still ask him for money, visit him in the office and call his phone. 

 I am 27 and got married three years ago. We have three children. My marriage is not what I expected it to be because my husband’s ex lovers still ask him for money, visit him in the office and call his phone. Though he does not pick their calls, he told me the story of one of the ladies that came when I had my first baby. He asked for my permission before she came and all through, she looked at him lustfully. I thought that was the end of the affair but I kept seeing her calls on his phone and when I asked him, he slapped me for the first time and warned me never to touch his phone again. I am afraid that his past affairs could disturb our marriage because he married me as a virgin.  I tried having a heart-to-heart talk with him but he flared up. What do I do?

M.A

Lagos

Then stop talking about them and hold your peace. Men exercise caution on extra-marital affairs when their wives feign ignorance of their activities outside the home. To have peace in your home, don’t discuss anything on these girls and stop prying into his phone. Just pray that he gets tired chasing them. Also, make him comfortable at home and stop nagging. I think your good character will draw him nearer to you but farther away from those girls outside. In fact, the best weapon is to make him believe that you trust him!