SOULMATES

Sex/age/profession: Woman, 29, student

Other details: Nigerian, south west, tall, fair-complexioned and single

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, educated/employed/into business, tall, a Christian and age could be from 45 years above

Contact: 08100569389

2. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 33, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Osun, average height, a Christian, single and based in Lagos

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian employed, presentable and age could be between 35-42 years

Contact: 07062944519

3. Sex/age/profession: Man, 50, employed

Other details: Nigerian, south east, 5ft5”, fair-complexioned and single father of one

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, caring, understanding and age could be between 35-45 years

Contact: 07014989349

4. Sex/age/profession: Man, 30, employed

Other details: Nigerian, south east, tall, fair-complexioned, single, handsome, educated, romantic, caring and based in Lagos

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, any tribe, educated/employed/into business and age could be between 40- 60 years

Contact: 08109465217

5. Sex/age/profession: Man, 38, into business

Other details: Nigerian, Imo, 5ft 8”, fair-complexioned and based in Lagos

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, employed/into business and age could be between 27-34 years

Contact: 08140713169

6. Sex/age/profession: Man, 28, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Abia, 6ft, single and a Moslem

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, Abia, single, must be a Moslem and age could be between 30-40 years

Contact: 08113353678

7. Sex/age/profession: Man, 36, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Kwara, 5ft 7”, dark-complexioned, single and based in Lagos

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, south, single, must be a Moslem, and below 30 years

Contact: 08170141833

8. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 30, employed

Other details: Nigerian, south west, 5ft 7”, fair-complexioned, a Christian and single

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, educated/employed, mature and ready for a marriage. Age could be between 40-50 years

Contact: 08067335446

9. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 29, into business

Other details: Nigerian, Akwa Ibom, 5ft 2”, fair-complexioned, single and a Christian

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, educated/employed/into business, single and age could be between 40-60 years

Contact: 08133711044

10. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 52, employed

Other details: Nigerian, homely, well-read, fun and a Christian

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, educated/employed, romantic, fun, spiritual, homely and a Christian. Age could be between 48-56 years

Contact: 09093306763

SOULMATES

1. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 54, lecturing
Other details: Nigerian, Ekiti, 175cm, single, a Christian, has children and is responsible.
Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian responsible, educated and accomplished, a practising Christian with children but single. Age could be between 50-60 years.
Contact: 080110773690

2. Sex/age/profession: Man, 30, engineer

Other details: Nigerian, average height, slim, a   Christian and based in Lagos

 Contact: 08076037700

3. Sex/age/profession: Man, 30, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Delta, dark-complexioned, average height, a Christian and based in Ibadan

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, any tribe, employed and age could be between 28-29 years.

Contact: 08179633154

4. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 32, employed

Other details: Nigerian, south west, average height, single, homely, romantic and a Christian

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, any tribe, employed/into business, honest and ready for marriage. Age could be between 39-52 years

Contact: 08130711668

5. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 47, employed

Other details: Nigerian, 5ft 6”, loving, caring and single

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, educated/employed/into business, tall, good-looking and age could be from 48-65 years

Contact: 08173286125

6. Sex/age/profession: Man, 44, into business

Other details: Nigerian, Imo, 5ft8”, single and based in Lagos

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, mature, employed/into business and age could be from 38 years above

Contact: 09032975583

7. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 35, graduate

Other details: Nigerian, south east, 5ft 9”, slim, fair-complexioned, genotype: AS, good-looking and homely

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, Imo, a pastor, single, without kids, sincere and age could be between 40- 4 8 years

Contact: 08069193368

8. Sex/age/profession: Man, 33, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Ondo, single, fair-complexioned, a Christian, average height, presentable and God fearing

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian,
moderate height, good-looking and age could be between 23-30 years
Contact: 08023201050.

8. Sex/age/profession: Woman, 47, employed

Other details: Nigerian, North West, 5ft 7”, a Christian, mother of two

Spouse specification: Man, Nigerian, a well-to-do widower and age could be between 50-60 years

 Contact: 08114512514

9Sex/age/profession: Man, 39, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Imo, average height and fair-complexioned
Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, understanding, humble and pretty woman. Age could be between 25-33 years
Contact: 08146702922

 10 Sex/age/profession: Man, 30, employed

Other details: Nigerian, Akwa Ibom, 5ft 7”, a Christian, single, handsome and based in Uyo

Spouse specification: Woman, Nigerian, any tribe, caring, romantic, single and age could be between 40-50 years

Contact: 08033823227

BROKEN HEARTS CAN HEAL

Dear Kemi,

He asks for permit to be unfaithful

My boyfriend is used to having sex in his previous relationships and I am a virgin. I told him that I want to remain a virgin till I get married but he has been putting pressure on me for sex. Now, he is asking that I permit him to have sex with his ex-girlfriend since I would not have sex with him. What do I do?

L.O

Osun

KEMI replies:

Really, I would not know what to say in a situation like this but I think the guy is not too sincere with you. A relationship is not just about sex and if he claims to love you, he should abide with your rule and not run to his former girlfriend for sex. You have to be careful about this guy and if you desire peace, withdraw from this relationship. 

Dear Kemi,

I love older women
I am 28, cute and I am fun to be with. I associate well with women of every age but my problem is I have never been attracted to a girl my age. With me, the lady has to be older than me. Mind you, this is not about fun or for material gains, I am just attracted to older women. How can I cure myself of this disease? I'm tired of hiding in the closet because I grow older everyday and I would have to start thinking of settling down. Do I have to get married to a woman I am not attracted to just because I need to conform to societal norms? I am just so confused.
B.B,

Lagos.

Kemi replies:

It has not been specified anywhere that a man must be older than a woman before they get married, so why cause yourself sorrow of heart and hide in closets? Having an affair with someone is being comfortable emotionally and physically together. How old are the women you get attracted to? Old enough to be your mother? Or is it that they are two/three years older? Or are they married and want you as a gigolo? Since you have indicated that it is not for material gains, I think you can go ahead and date whoever pleases you and as long as she is single.

 

Dear Kemi,

She deceives me

  I am a guy of 25 years and dating a girl of same age. We have been on for four months now and when met I her, she told me about someone in her life but that he does not care about her. Now, anytime this girl wanted to receive a phone call whenever I am around, she would excuse herself. Moreover, whenever she wants to call me, she would mistakenly call her former boyfriend’s name! I get angry but she would apologise and tell me that she has called it quit with him. Is she deceiving me? I love her and can’t let go.

 O.A,

Ejigbo, Lagos.

Kemi replies:

That she calls her supposed ex-boyfriend’s name instead of you shows that they still see each other. You can’t mistakenly call someone you have not seen for four months! Since you have concluded that you are not ready let go, maybe I should advise that you continue with her and learn to absorb whatever mistakes she commits. This was not once but several times. Try and investigate well on this issue before your love for her grows deeper than this.

Dear Kemi,
 A woman defrauds me
I am in my early 30s and work with one of the security agencies.  I’m also schooling part-time. I came across my former girlfriend two years after we separated. She is now married with a baby boy. We became friends again but it’s platonic. She claimed to be a traveller and her husband, a banker. There was a time she borrowed N50, 000 from me with a promise to pay the following week. Initially, I didn’t agree but she pleaded that I help her. I went ahead and took a loan from my boss. I handed it over to her and made her realise that I borrowed it from my boss. That was February and up till date, she has not refunded the money. Now, it takes time before she picks my calls. The last time I was in her shop, she was full of senseless excuses.  She was not remorseful and I really want to teach her a lesson.  I have every gadget to do this so that others can learn from her. I see her as a fraud!
L.P,
Aba
Kemi replies:
So, what lessons do you want to teach another man’s wife? Beat her? Arrest her? Report to her husband? Or fight with her in her shop? She could accuse you of rape and if you dare go to her husband, she could tell him that you made passes at her and she did not respond. The husband could even get you arrested despite the fact that you work with a security agency. Why not ignore her and seek how to pay your boss back? I think she used you to get what she wanted. Obviously, she is heartless and is prepared for whatever action you will take. There is nothing you will do now that your fingers will not be burnt.

MARITAL MATTERS

Trapped in a loveless marriage

By the time she marked her 40th birthday; Helen had been married for only 10 years but had gone grey like a 60-year-old.

Married to a handsome man and with two lovely children, she was the envy of spinsters. “But I don’t feel married and I want to walk out of this marriage,” she confessed sadly.

A successful businesswoman, she travelled on vacation to numerous cities with her children and the family lived in a palatial mansion in a highbrow area in Lagos.

“I believe I never knew Albert well enough before agreeing to marry him. I must have fallen for his good looks and we courted for two months. Then, I was almost 30, had experienced disappointment from many men and I had given up on marriage.

“He proposed the same week we met and because he was presentable and had prospects, I accepted due to the fact that my parents had put pressure on me to get married,” she recalled.

Their wedding was a talk-of-the-town (Helen worked in an oil company and Albert was a banker). Their children came in quick succession and in between the early years of marriage, she realised some strange acts in him. “We hardly spoke to each other even when we had no marital squabbles, Albert could keep malice whenever he chose to. In fact, after my second child, he did not talk to me for six months. Though he gave me money for the children’s upkeep, he never spoke to me and rarely asked for sex. If there was any holiday, we ended up having nothing to say except, ‘what do you want to eat? ‘How are the children? ‘Did the plumber/carpenter come?’ We were not friends at all.”

For one who is a chatterbox, Helen did not believe this was happening to her. She became a recluse in her home. Maybe she would have coped with his weird ways but then, he started sleeping with her maids.

“Not only that, he made passes at some of my female staff and I was able to find out when a particular girl confessed that he asked her to go and wait for him in a nearby hotel. I confronted him and he apologised but since then, whatever love I had for him disappeared,” she said.

Then, he became violent and there was a time she spent two weeks in the hospital. She added, “I ran away without my children but when I became well, I returned because of them and reported him to his pastor and threatened to put my battered face picture in the newspapers and social media. This worked because he never laid his hands on me thereafter.”

Sex? It became history in the marriage and in a year, they had sex thrice! “I usually refuse because we never communicated at all but he expected me to be in the mood to make love.  I cannot have extra marital affair because of my status as a celebrity but he was lucky and slept with my maids. I didn’t care and whenever he was not home, I was happy.”

Now contemplating divorce, Helen said that her husband has never bought her a gift; they hardly spoke in public; and they don’t talk on the phone except won domestic issues.

“We never attended parties together, even if we are both invited, he would sneak out without me and vice versa. If we eventually went together, we would either fight at the venue or he would leave within 45 minutes. Meanwhile, I could stay for four hours. Whenever I saw display of affection by other couples, I felt jealous. In fact, I felt single and unmarried. At times, I wish one of the house girls could get pregnant and I would be able to file for divorce.  When I told him to stop the pretence and divorce me, he claimed he loved me and didn’t want divorce. To me, this isn’t love.”

 What should Helen do? Answers and opinions are welcome.

Kemi