LOVE MATTERS

I have a problem with my libido

DEAR KEMI,

I am happily married to a man who loves me but I am never satisfied sexually. This started after I got raped and it has reached the extent of sleeping with my husband’s brother, few of his friends and even lured some of my girlfriends into sex! I arranged for two of my female and male friends to have sex with me at the same time! It is beyond me and I have prayed and fasted about it, yet no result. I love my husband and would not want to lose him. What do I do?

C.C,

Lagos.

Kemi advises

Unfortunately, ours is not a society that employs the services of professional psychiatrists. We believe they treat only mentally deranged victims when there are other emotional and psychological issues to be treated. That you have realised that this is a problem, is the first step to getting a solution. If you cannot get a shrink, maybe you need to go back to the clerics who advised you to fast and pray. Let them know what is happening. Meanwhile, you also have to make up your mind to put a stop to it. No prayer, fasting, counselling will take the place of self will.  When you are determined to drop any habit, your will comes on the scene and you get help divine help.

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LOVE MATTERS

I want to be second wife

Dear Kemi,

I am 30 years old but single. I have been dating a married man, who has a child, for a year and a half. He has been catering for my needs and even my family. He showers me with love, gifts and I truly love him. Now, I am under pressure to get married. Already, no bachelor has been asking me out. I have had several broken relationships in the past but this man once took me to his village to meet his mother. Though, no formal introduction, he promised to see my family members very soon. Do I call off the affair for intending suitors to come? I don’t want to lose him. Some of my friends said I could be mocked for being a second wife, others shunned off the idea but do I go ahead and marry him? Or will a bachelor come one day?

I.J.E,

Abuja

Kemi advises,

I have always believed that polygamy is not fanciful, no matter the money involved. Even if he can afford to keep two homes, you should know that marriage entails more than money. What are his reasons for wanting another wife? What kind of mother does he have? What transpires in his home to make him opt for another wife? You need to know all these because you could also face whatever his first wife faced. If you are ready to be a second wife, you should know that more women, who will also go to see his mother, are coming. Maybe some suitors are coming but you are so committed to this affair and what it offers you that you don’t even know when the right suitor comes. Dating a married man and trying to get a young bachelor to marry is Herculean, especially when your people have decided for you. Think very well because not all that glitters is gold.

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