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How to be get married fast!

Marriage should not pose a challenge when you pull down some barriers and adhere to these rules. Your Mr. /Miss Right might just be some steps away

Don’t play hard to get

 Playing hard to get makes it hard to find Mr. /Ms. Right. You need not pretend to be busy when asked out on a date; neither should you feign nonchalance when you really desire that person asking you out. There is a chance that when you change gear, it can be someone who will make you unhappy.

·     Never harbour stereotypes

Not all men fear commitment and not every woman is needy. A large percentage of singles is anxious and seek closeness but worries about love not being reciprocated. Others are avoidant and shun intimacy. People who push others away or have a preconceived idea about intimacy are likely to end up single.

·     Don’t hold on to the past

Holding on to an ex or a failed relationship makes it hard to find a new one. For these reasons, you become avoidant and uncomfortable in any relationship — you push others away and compare every new person you meet with your ex. Why not let go?

·     Be decisive

 If you are in a relationship but do not know what you want out of it, then you may be single for a long time. Have a mind of your own and take the responsibility of making your own decisions in your relationship. Be clear and certain about what you want and set out to get it.

·     Be flexible

Already, you have a picture of who your ideal mate should be. Be flexible in your choice, and realistic; you can never get a perfect partner. No one is. Or do you want a relationship like that of the movies? Then, it might take a very long time. Getting stuck on finding all the qualities in your ‘what-I-want’ list is a faster way of remaining single.

·     Don’t indulge in ‘e-romance’

Online romances may meet some of your attachment needs, but not in a real way. Meet new prospects and stick more realistic ways of meeting people.

·     Be bold and feel secure

Some people avoid committed relationships because they worry they will become dependent on their mate, or break up rather too soon. It may be one fear or another. The trick is to boldly find someone and work at it.

·     Believe in yourself

 Some people think they simply are not worthy of meeting other people until they lose weight, amass a certain amount of money or achieve something. The key to overcome this problem is to believe in oneself and love oneself the way one is.

·     Don’t be a flirt

 Serious people who want to be engaged in serious relationships do not play around; they get down to the real deal. No one wants to date someone who is known for hopping into every available bed.

·     Change your work schedules

Some singles who are searching for mates would not think of you as good material, if you work late nights and on weekends. More importantly, not having the same schedule could be a huge strain on a relationship. It may not be easy to give up your passion or change career for someone, but nights and weekends are when most people are free to spend time together. It could be an expressway to being single.